It’s been quite a holiday season this year, in oh so many ways.
Nothing about it has been ‘normal’ or ‘same old, same old’ or even vaguely familiar.
Given a whole range of circumstances, some of which will go unmentioned out of respect for others’ privacy and most well beyond our control, my family has found itself in the odd situation of celebrating the holidays stateside yet for a few days by ourselves.
In recent weeks we’ve been scattered to the winds, and only as Christmas approached has our nuclear family unit finally been reunited.
We’re Christmas people.
Not merely from a religious perspective, but also from a deeply entrenched cultural one as well.
My family not only tolerates my love of seasonal celebration, they appreciate and encourage it.
So year after year you’ll find us decking the halls in the same manner, following the same routines and rituals, eating and imbibing the same favorites.
That’s not to say we aren’t capable of change, because we are.
For instance, after a dozen years throwing renowned Christmas parties - I’d like to think they were well-attended as much for the eclectic guest list, scintillating conversation and fabulous food as for the mucho glasses of bubbly and Husband’s decadent port tasting held in a back room - we chose not to recreate those soirées when we moved away, intent on developing new traditions.
Then there was the almost seamless transition from the annual selection of a healthy, live tree to finally breaking down and admitting that an attractive artificial behemoth beauty that fit well in the new living room had its redeeming qualities.
I’ve gone from baking a half dozen kinds of Christmas cookies to barely managing to eke out basic sugar cookies. Covered with luscious frosting and candy decorations, mind you. But still, the family has learned to do without just fine.
When we moved to a home without an outdoor electrical outlet allowing for our traditional interwoven greenery and white lights framing the doorway and porch railings, we rolled with the punches, sucked it up and made due with additional pine boughs, red velvet bows and an oversized wreath.
(No comments on overcompensating with wreath size, please.)
Heck, we even learned to take it all down several notches when we moved to Nederland several years ago. Well, on the exterior, at least.
So don’t think we can’t tolerate change. We thrive on change – nay, we excel at change.
But this year was something altogether different.
Nothing quite says ‘Happy Holidays’ like trying to celebrate Christmas while living out of suitcases in temporary accommodations, our extensive collection of beloved ornaments, decorations and seasonal trappings safely tucked away back in The Netherlands.
What’s a vagabond family to do?
Declare it a stripped down holiday season and make do with less, fewer, other or simply go without. It’s amazing what you can accomplish with limited time, space, and budget but unlimited creativity, innovation and panache.
The results? A far simpler, cleaner, greener Christmas than usual, but one that didn’t skimp on spirit or cheer.
We’ve focused on the importance of being together, being a family.
We’ve spent more time taking long hikes in sun-dappled forests, seeing a movie, enjoying leisurely lunches, and – thanks to a far more robust glut of post-season bowl games in recent years - instructing Daughter in the finer points of American football.
We even spent what the Dutch and others call the ‘Second Christmas’ (Tweede Kerstmis) – Boxing Day to Brits, Aussies and Canadians – out bowling.
Yes, bowling. As in silly looking shoes, hurling a heavy ball down a waxed wooden lane and trying to knock over wooden pins. Rest assured our amateur status was never in jeopardy, especially when we required the services of the kindly lane manager to reset the electronic score-keeping system for us.
Not once, but twice.
We may have attracted more than a few quizzical looks with our unorthodox bowling form, and our utter inability to get the balls to go where intended, but hey – we were together, we laughed and we had a wonderful time.
So goes the holiday intermezzo, these lazy days after Christmas and before New Year’s Eve celebrations, then once again we scatter to the far corners of the world. I wouldn’t trade them for anything.






















Merry Christmas! I feel like there’s no one on earth who loves Christmas as much as I do (and I even have a Christmas Eve birthday to add that much more to the celebration!) and find that I have to create brand new traditions every year because many things don’t translate to our latest country of residence. But I like to think that one of the things that never changes is my great enthusiasm for the season and for all it brings. We enjoyed our first Shanghai Christmas even though it was absolutely nothing like our last Christmas in Macau! I hope things go smoothly for you despite the roughness it would appear you are currently going though, and that the new year brings much joy and peace! Best wishes!
Thank you Heather, and a belated Happy Birthday to a Christmas Eve baby. It’s amazing how you can spruce up temporary digs with a trip or two to Target and the local dollar store (both difficult to find overseas) – add some pine boughs, a small live Christmas tree and pine cones found on one of our hikes and we were all set! Enjoyed checking out your blog – Happy New Year to you and yours.
I guess this goes to prove that Christmas is all about who you are with not what you do. This gets my vote! Wishing you and yours a healthy and happy 2013.
Absolutely Jack. It’s who you’re with and who you’re thinking of that matter most. Hope you and Liam have a very wonderful 2013!
I just wanted to say how cheered I am to read of your love for Christmas from a religious perspective, as well as a cultural one. And great you really rose to the challenge of making things festive ‘on the hoof’.
I love hanging the colourful tree baubles we’ve collected from different places – people have commented on “how sweet” the china Starbucks ones are (bought in Houston), but my favourite is a painted wooden, bauble hollowed out with a little bell in the middle; its from Russia (with love!).
This year, our Christmas day was with family too, including our two sets of elderly grand-parents. I guess the great thing about being an expat, or even an ex-expat, is that it never feels like ‘same old, same old’ as I’m always mindful of the difficult ones when we were separated and that makes it special
That it does, Laura, that it does. Often we have to relearn the common sense adage not to take others – especially those we care about – for granted. Have a wonderful new year!
Funny… Sometimes Christmas doesn’t turn out quite how it’s supposed to. It sounds as if it was a special Christmas, though, in many ways. One that you will probably remember very well, in years to come. Long walks, bowling… sounds like fun to me! Wishing you all the best for 2013!
It truly was a special holiday this year, Emma. The simplicity and family bonding lingers in my mind to this day, and we’ll take that forward with us. May you have a fabulous new year as well!